Monday 23 April 2012

When nothing goes right ...

 During our life span, there are occasions when nothing goes right. Problems seem to rain in torrents. I am no exception and have been through these phases of life. It easy to get devoured by negativity in these stages. In hindsight though, these phases seem to be the most fertile periods for self improvement and effectiveness. For one, it helps hone our character as I have blogged in http://spritualitynmanagement.blogspot.in/2011/11/how-to-be-successful.html. Besides, there are other aspects too. This is when a sense of disgust and frustration is aroused, which can be positively channelized into a cathartic process.
 When things are hunky dory, we hardly pause to take stock, to the point where we might be completely off track. For e.g., if in our career, we are on a roll, with hefty hikes and a steep rise up the corporate ladder, we are most unlikely to take stock of our true aspirations, and the larger picture. In my opinion this is the reason that some of the most successful people, who seemingly have everything that it takes, are often left feeling void. On the contrary, if nothing seems to be going right, we are more likely to step back, and take stock of the situation, our current priorities, and our true purpose in life. This in my opinion, will help us connect with our true self, and soak in the joy of success as and when it happens, without feeling bereft. For outwardly success without inner contentment and satisfaction, equates to failure.
 This is not to exalt predicament, and advocate adverse situations as the only path to contentment and effectiveness. This is to raise awareness of the benefits that we can churn out of our quagmire, instead of being overwhelmed by it.
 Easier said than done? Could be. When nothing goes right, it is hard to get out of the whirlpool. But it helps reminiscing our earlier misfortunes, which have been a blessing in disguise.
 Any experiences or thoughts?

Saturday 7 April 2012

What has Self-introspection got to do with effectiveness?

 In my last article, I briefly touched upon Self introspection in the context of emotional intelligence, and that Self introspection is advocated by Hindu scriptures. This is a follow-on to that with a much broader scope. This is because self-introspection touches every aspect of personal and professional effectiveness.
 Active self introspection is the idea of investigating our own emotions, thoughts, behavior and conduct, and meditating on ways to avoid self-deprecating acts. For e.g.: If we are at loggerheads with someone, rather than carp or cavil, Hindu scriptures advises us to self introspect and realize that it is a reflection of our own shortfalls. It might be because of our own selfishness or ego that we are failing to see the other person's point of view, it might be because our own self aggrandizement that we fail to respect the other person, or it might be because we are attached to a desire / goal, that it blinds us of objectivity. If we acknowledge the fact that all of us are creation of God, and that no one is superior to other, and that it is superior in fact for humans to respect and accommodate the other being, it would be easier to break the ice.
 Another example where self-introspection could help enhance our effectiveness is, when we feel we truly deserved the much awaited fat hike / career advancement, but it is awarded to someone else. The immediate instinct is to brood over the partiality, unfairness, and loathe the superiors, peer etc. But if we accede to the the teachings of Hindu scriptures, and introspect, we might unearth hidden gems. Foremost, it will help us attribute the success of the person who obtained it, to the value that the person brings. This then paves ways for us to identify our shortcomings. It might be that the inter-personal skills needs improvement, it might be that a better business acumen is essential, it might be that there is a need to change the role / domain where our strengths shine etc.. This kind of objective evaluation of the situation lends to better decision and improves our chances of landing that prized hike / advancement, or might be even better.
 In essence, self-introspection leads to change that which is in our direct control - our own thoughts, behavior and conduct, which is what will lead to true effectiveness. We can continue blaming others, blaming our misfortune etc. , but that would not help us an ounce.